# When should I send the first message after someone accepts?
> Wait a day or two. A pitch in the same hour as the accept reads as automated and drops replies. Use that first DM to start a conversation, not to book a demo.
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They accepted a connection, not a meeting. If your first DM lands 30 seconds later with a Calendly link, you taught them the accept was a mistake. Wait a business day, sometimes two. Same-week is fine. Same-minute is not.

Reference the same trigger you used in the invite, or something they can see you actually looked at. If the invite was blank, the first DM has to introduce a reason from scratch. Keep it to two sentences and a question they can answer without a budget review.

Do not recap your whole company. Do not send a loom in message one unless they asked. Curiosity first, proof later.

If they message you first after accepting, answer that thread. Do not fire the sequence on top of a human hello. That collision is how "automated" becomes obvious.

Omentir can wait and draft. You still decide whether the first line is a pitch. If you want more on the copy, [hooking the prospect](/blogs/hooking-the-prospect-linkedin-intro-lines-that-drive-40-percent-reply-rates) is a longer piece on openers.

## Related

- [Should I add a calendar link in the first LinkedIn message?](https://omentir.com/help/should-i-add-a-calendly-link-in-the-first-linkedin-message.md)
- [How long should a LinkedIn cold message be?](https://omentir.com/help/how-long-should-a-linkedin-cold-message-be.md)
- [How do I book a meeting from a LinkedIn message?](https://omentir.com/help/how-to-book-a-meeting-from-a-linkedin-message.md)

## Frequently asked questions

**What if they accepted three weeks later?**

Still send a first DM, but do not pretend it happened yesterday. A short "thanks for connecting, still looking at X?" is enough. The original trigger may be stale. Pick a new one or keep it light.

**Is commenting on their post a substitute for waiting?**

A real comment before or after the accept helps. It is not a license to pitch in the same hour as the accept.

**Should the first DM repeat the invite note?**

Do not paste it. Advance it. The invite got you in. The DM should ask something or offer one useful observation.

**What if I only have time to send immediately?**

Then skip the DM that day. An empty new connection is better than a spammy one. Queue it for tomorrow.

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